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The  Braxton Family Values television show has actually shown a light on what women need and want on men. Now, before you get anxious or upset hear me out. Each one of these women have a situation that points out what the actual needs are in a  good relationships. They also point out what destructive behavior undermines relationships.

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Real  relationships start with real expectations,the endless list of cheaters we read about in the tabloids are proof positive that there is something wrong . It leads me to the question of  what do we really look for in our partners. Lately. I have been doing a great deal of reading of autobiographies and biographies.  I have garnered a few comments from the forums here on Black Planet and friends. The show has started a discussion about relationships. This appears to be what women are looking for in a partner. Maybe if we actually stick to the real qualifications we could get away from the men who are not good for us.

Here is what has become evident from the show and women responding to the show.

A Man With a Great PersonalityAbove all else, a great personality is what women are searching for in a man. Yes, they like looking at the pretty boys – it’s human nature to do so. But when it comes down to dating someone or having a relationship, personality beats looks every time.

A Man Who Exhibits Confidence- Women also like a man who exudes confidence. A woman pays special attention to notice if you carry yourself with self-assurance, whether you are at ease when you speak to her and if you are a man who is comfortable with yourself. If you can offer this to a woman, it is very appealing and she will find it almost impossible to reject any offers you make to date her.

A Man Who is Comfortable to Treat Women as Equals- When a woman says that she wants to be treated like your equal, she doesn’t mean that she wants you to treat her like one of the guys. She just wants you to respect her, appreciate her intelligence and value her opinions. She still wants you to be the man – don’t ever forget that.

A Man Who is SupportiveShe also wants someone who has her back, is there to support her and, when necessary, can protect her. That doesn’t mean that she always wants you always to run to her rescue, but she does want to know that if she needs your help you’ll be there. You don’t have to tell her this – she will pick up on it by observing your overall character as a man.

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A Man Who Allows Her to be a WomanMen are natural problem solvers and when a woman airs a problem to a man, many men often feel that it’s their job to solve the woman’s dilemma. However, that’s not necessarily what she wants. Most of the time (80%), she’s just looking for you to lend an ear but sometimes (20%), yes, she does want your input.

A Man Who Treats His Woman as Special Women like to feel special and cherished. This doesn’t mean she wants you to put her on a pedestal – a common mistake of the nice guy. When you first approach a woman or are just getting to know her, she wants you to treat her like you would any other woman; not any better or any worse. She wants you to be yourself – your best self – in her presence.

A Man Who is Comfortable Showing Affection and Attention Most women love occasional, impulsive gift giving. And, no, a first date is not the time to bring candy or flowers – it’s a surefire case of ‘trying too hard’ and will turn 99% of modern women off you in an instant.

A Man with Ambition- While most women aren’t necessarily looking to marry a millionaire, she does want to know that you have a good work ethic and that you have at least some ambition to improve yourself. Whether it’s taking a class to advance your career or reading books that will improve your mind, women love men who aren’t content to just always sit in front of the tube or hang with their friends. They want a man who actually shows a desire to improve his life and possibly their life together.

These are the things that she is looking for. I am sure that many men who are reading this are looking at the page a little strangely. You see it all the time when you watch the reality shows. So there you have  to quote Tamar Braxton, “point blank period.”

Here is a clip from the show: