Q: I haven’t dated much since my divorce over a year ago. I’ve noticed a man a few times at a restaurant I frequent; we’ve made eye contact, but that’s all. My brother — a single dad — suggested I write the man a note asking if he’d like to meet for coffee and include my number or e-mail.
What do you think? I lack self-confidence, but I’m also ready to date. — A.C., 42, Yuma, AZ
A: Everyone from The Rules ladies to the considerably hipper author of Screw Cupid: The Sassy Girl’s Guide to Picking Up Hot Guys feels the same about this issue: Don’t do it. There’s a whiff of desperation, the least sexy odor in all of dating, that inevitably comes with the lady issuing the invitation.
But you’ve got to find out what works for you, and do so in a way that builds your confidence rather than prompts you to resign yourself to spending the rest of your life watching romantic comedies.
If you feel a powerful urge to pass the note, go for it, if only in the interest of social experimentation. As long as your self-esteem can take the blow if he looks at you askance, truly, what’s the worst that can happen?
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